Isn’t it strange how an act which is out of love yields a byproduct, something which came out unavoidably becomes the possession of the owner as if this was what they actually expected!! Lovemaking is an action to show the passion or maybe the intensity and loyalty of your love to your partner. So if it's done out of love then how does a child which is just a byproduct of the entire process become your possession? And if this was the product you expected, then what about the love that should have been present between you? The act which you did for pleasure or your own ‘selfish’ interests (maybe), why should that be paid off with responsibilities and obligations in the future by that child. Why is that the child has to fall prey for every decision you make and also pay for something you have done. Does that mean the pleasure you had needs to be paid back to you? Because it is the same pleasure that you label as ‘sacrifice’ in the future, isn't it?

“I want my child to have everything that I didn't have back in my childhood”

Something every parent tells and works hard to keep up this wish. But why does this ‘everything’ only limit up to the material wants of the kids? Is it because of the so-called propaganda of the current period that - This generation is apathetic!!! Do you really think that the increase in the number of suicides among teenagers, the fact that depression and anxiety have become like a ‘common cold’ in every household, teenagers following the masses blindly without knowing what to choose all this is just because of the damn idea that they are APATHETIC?

When as a parent you decide to give your child all the happiness in the world, make sure you at first know the meaning of what ‘happiness’ is. If you want to give a satisfying life to your child that you didn't receive then also make sure to give the love and encouragement that you didn't get from your parents. Because this generation is messed up to this extent mostly because you are continuing the same mistake that your parents once did, “What will society tell?”

Speak about how much you love your child to them and not in front of the society. Make them feel safe around you by telling them that you trust them. Because unless you break that boundary of the parent-child relationship, you won’t get access to their safe space. And if you can't be your child’s safe space, they will just keep running away from you further. Every word from you would never be accepted as a word of love and affection; worse it would be taken the other way round and you will be nothing more than a dictator in their world. And dictators are always detested in spite of their good deeds and how much they change until they finally rest in their grave pits.